How To Talk With Someone Struggling With Overload
What's The Word That's REALLY Holding You Back
You’re watching the train wreck unfold right in front of you. It might be your boss who has so much on their plate, and they are rarely communicating with you or the team. It might be a coworker who is drowning in deadlines or feeling overwhelmed with a new assignment. Having been in this situation yourself, you know the dangers of not taking action, but you struggle with how to have a helpful conversation.
Where Do You Need To Be Indifferent As A Leader?
One of the great joys I have in my work is that I get to have deep conversations with people from all seasons of life. They may just be starting out on their career, anxiously trying to figure out what they want to do to make a difference. Others might have reached a level of success, but find that they want to explore new options, while another may be yearning to start their own business or make a major life shift. What I find interesting is that the inability for all of them to move forward is caused by...
Strong Leaders Need To Be Level 3 Listeners
According to Merriam-Webster, some of the primary definitions of indifferent are: Marked by impartiality, does not matter one way or another, or no special liking or disliking of something. Continue reading the list, and you’ll also find other definitions like, being neither excessive nor inadequate, or being neither good nor bad.
Indifference and leadership are two words rarely found together,
How Is That Pain In The Neck Affecting Your Productivity?
I recently spent a whole weekend learning how to be a better listener. Well… that wasn’t the only thing I did for three days, but it was a major focus of the training experience. While I have always considered myself a “good listener,” I now realize how much I have, at times, been missing in conversations.
The experience also reminded me...
Why Imperfect Progress Helps Pummel Your Perfectionism
The pain in my hip and lower back was severe. After sitting in a plane seat for a few hours I could hardly get up to walk through the airport. As the pain subsided I rationalized that I must have "pulled something" and chose to try and resume business as usual. Then, when I least expected it, the pain would return. "I've just got too much to do to let this slow me down," I thought. I resisted for a couple of weeks until I just couldn't take it anymore.
3 Words That Will Expose Your Resistance To Change
Perfectionism wreaks so much havoc in our lives. At work we fail to take action on an issue or challenge because none of the solutions offered are without some negative consequence. We resist learning a new skill because we aren’t “good at it” the first time, or worse yet, we’re afraid to show our mistakes to others.
What Stirs You To Change?
While catching up on some of Godin's posts a couple of weeks ago, I came across one that really rattled me as I read it. Three Ways To Add Value focuses on three words that can quickly expose how little time we daily dedicate to moving ourselves, our team, or our organization forward by acting on change. See which of these words best describes where you spend your time:
Why You Need To Allow YOU To Be A Priority
A speaker once caught my attention in a unique way. He began by saying, "What can't you stand anymore? What is that image or thought that stirs you to change your behaviors? He continued by giving an example near and dear to my childhood-Popeye the Sailor Man!
Four Fresh Ways To Conquer Your Email Overload
What a memorable day at my house last Sunday. Because it was Father's Day, my amazing daughters and wonderful wife went the extra mile in making the day special. There was the incredible lunch, time spent reminiscing about parenting, and a whole host of other moments directed toward me.
In the past, such days have made me uncomfortable.
3 Pesky Weeds That Can Strangle Your Team's Growth
Someone with a really warped sense of humor designated the second week in June as National Email Week. I don't know about you, but taking time to celebrate a "productivity tool" that causes me such consternation doesn't seem appropriate.
3 Ways To Make The Most Of A Post Holiday Workday
I must say I'm not proud of this picture of one spot in my vegetable garden. One of the new favorite leafy vegetables for my family is swiss chard and those are the plants with the reddish-purple veins you see in the photo. In my part of the world they grow best in spring and early summer so we need to maximize their growth before the heat (and insects) overpower them.
Do You Need To Think More About Your Future?
I don't know about you, but the workday after a holiday has always felt a little disjointed to me. On one hand we should be ready to take on the world after an extra day or two of rest from work, but on the other hand, I find myself longing for more of that personal or family time that I got during the day off. If I'm not careful, I can find myself meandering through my day and not getting anything of real value accomplished.
The 3 Signs You Need To Stop Attempting Too Much
This week I am exhibiting at the Association For Talent Development (ATD) Conference and Expo in Atlanta Georgia. Over 8000 learning and talent development leaders from around the world will be here. I absolutely love this opportunity to reconnect with past clients, make new connections, and just have some really memorable conversations about how to grow the talent within an organization.
How To Get Control Of Your Infobesity
I have a list of time management challenges that I use for discussion in one of my training programs. When I ask, “Which one seems to impact you the most,?” a surprising number of participants respond with, “Attempting too much.”
I personally see value in having more planned for your day than you might reasonably get done.
3 Simple Questions To Energize A Discussion About Change
You’re probably nodding at your screen right now, saying, “Yes! That’s my world.” I think it is for all of us. Just like we are prone to eat too much, we easily allow ourselves to intake too much information.
Where Could You Quickly Serve In Your Community?
At many of the conferences or corporate meetings where I am asked to speak, there is almost always someone talking about innovation. I hear things like “We need to develop more customer-centric ways of doing business” or “Leverage technology to increase speed to execution,” or one of my personal favorites, “Increase collaboration across the enterprise.”
Two Dangerous Obsessions For Leaders
This past Saturday I had the privilege of working with five amazing college students. They are all Shelton Scholars from the Shelton Leadership Center at NC State University. As one of the senior scholars, my daughter Alex got to choose a service project for her community and chose
Why You Need To Make The Tough Decisions
The fine line between being passionate or obsessive about something has always intrigued me. In a past blog I even defined the words in my own terms. Here are the abbreviated versions:
Three Things You Need To Stop Trying To Control
My travels last week included flights on Delta airlines during their struggle with cancelled flights due to a major weather system affecting the east coast. As I sat at the airport all afternoon Thursday I could see that my return trip on Delta wasn’t looking good. I gave some quick thoughts to other options, but chose to wait it out and hope for the best.
Merriam Webster defines control as "To exercise directing or restraining influence over." And while I'd like to think I am not a "control freak," I must confess there are times I am THAT type of person. I expend an enormous amount of energy trying to bend and shape every situation to align with my desired result. As you know, that is exhausting, frustrating, and rarely leads to the best outcomes!